First time so go easy on me. I am a relatively new company officer (3 years now) and I am looking for some advice. I am a nice guy and feel lately that it is hurting me as a company officer. I frustrated to the point that I don't want to be that "nice guy" anymore, but that is not who I am. I know that I am well respected by members of my own department and members from the agencies around me but I get the feeling that it is almost expected that I should be this "not so nice guy" and that frustrates me. I realize that I can't be "buddies" all the time and sometimes I need to be the "boss". I have no problems being in charge and making decisions even if they are unpopular. However, it seems that sometimes I am not taken seriously because of my laid back and nice personality. I feel that my kind and easygoing gestures towards other firefighters that don't know me are perceived as weakness. I expect (as I should) that those who work for me and those that work around me, know their job and should not require direction from me as a company officer to perform their job. I really don't feel the need to add any additional pressure to situations that are already stressful and that having a calm and sometimes casual demeanor is a positive thing and should not be considered as a lack of confidence,knowledge or skill. I know when the situation requires more serious focus and in those instances I act accordingly. I feel misunderstood and wonder if any of you have, or are experiencing what I am.